Rejection 

I have always been the type of person to speak from a grateful heart.

My world could be upside down but unless you were in my inner circle you may never have known.

Today, I want to share with you the most important lesson I have learnt in my life. Because there is no doubt in my mind that it can save many of you much heartache and sorrow.

Let go of the need to control the situations in your life. What you will find is that many times when you believe you are being rejected from something you earnestly want, it’s often because you are being prepared for something much better.

Sometimes we allow our minds to run away on us. We allow excessive analysing and external influences from our family, friends and even colleagues to play a significant role in the life goals we set for ourselves.

And many times this causes us to become blocked to better opportunities.

So today and every day make a conscious effort to let go of the need for control and the need to live up to other people’s expectations.

Then watch as you begin living a life you love.

All my love,

M.

Assumptions

A couple nights ago I had quite an interesting conversation with a friend of mine that lead to an epiphany. He did not make any grandiose statement, but merely stated,

Assumptions…

The mother of all f*ck ups

And of course, this got me thinking.

How much time have we spent making assumptions that lead to sadness and disappointment? Merely because we lacked the courage to ask the answers to what we wanted to know or perhaps we did not communicate our innermost thoughts, desires and visions clearly.

Maybe we were too afraid to voice our opinions because of fear of judgement or simply because we knew the solutions we seek sometimes meant a painful ending.

Today I would like to remind you that there is much joy in simplicity, in being honest with yourself and in your interactions with others.

Do not complicate your life by making assumptions, instead keep it simple and ask the right questions even if they are hard ones.

All my love,

M.

 

 

 

Benefits of Failure

Earlier this week I had an interesting conversation with a dear friend of mine on the connotation of words. One such word is failure.

Failure generally refers to the state or condition of not meeting a desirable or intended objective and is typically considered to be the opposite of success.

Society has become so engrossed with this word that we have started to have a “fear of failure”.

However, upon closer examination, it seems to me that the most prolific discoveries, inventions and works of art were often made after much “failure” was endured.


There is an epidemic grasping the world where so many people are afraid to try something new or be unique  because we are all so busy “avoiding failure”. We have become so afraid of how other’s will perceive us that we rather limit ourselves from achieving greatness instead of taking that risk. The result of which can lead to either an epic failure or a major success.

Whenever you feel yourself starting to silence that inner voice that tells you to pursue your heart’s desires remember this quote,

It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.

– J.K. Rowling

One of my all-time favourite speeches was given by the aforementioned author, in June 2008 at Havard’s commencement. Do take the time to listen to this one, it is definitely a game changer on how we should view failure!

 

All my love,

M.

 

 

 

 

 

Quit being so hard on yourself!

As I woke up this morning and glanced down at my phone I realised it was the 1st of July. To me, it seems like in a blink of an eye time is just passing by.

As we welcome and usher in the 7th month of the year, I think it is definitely a good time to take a couple minute to pause and reflect on how far along this journey many of us have come.

For some, they have experienced minor yet progressive change, whilst for others, myself included, the change has been monumental and life changing.

If you are anything like me you would have your eyes set on the horizon, towards the end point. But sometimes it is necessary to take a step back and appreciate how much progress you have made.

It is important to celebrate all the tribulations and obstacles you had to overcome to get to where you are at now. It is also crucial to quit being so hard on yourself and to give yourself some credit for showing up each day, trying to be a better person than you were yesterday.


Since it is FRI-YAY, embrace this opportunity and go do something amazing for yourself!

All my love,

M.

 

 

All about the flow

When I first started this blog and thereafter my Facebook page, one of the most intimidating things for me was committing to posting consistently.

My intention was to share one piece per week – a small target that seemed doable. Initially, I was achieving that goal and was tremendously overjoyed by the positive feedback from everyone.

Then, as my astrology buffs would say “retrograde season hit”. Whilst that is an entirely different topic, during this period there is an apparent change in the motion of the planets through the sky. Consequently, whenever a planet or planets are in retrograde the energy is slower manifesting in the external world thus, many setbacks tend to occur.

Somedays I felt like I ran into a brick walk. However, in retrospect, I have gained a certain appreciation for this time and the countless obstacles faced. It has allowed me to learn a very important lesson.

Life does not always turn out as planned and sometimes you really need to throw all of your plans away and simply go with the flow. 

There were days when I felt guilty and like a failure for not achieving my objectives. But sometimes it’s important to step back and stop focusing so much on always reaching a destination. Sometimes it’s all about taking a time out to enjoy the ride!

All my love,

M.

 

Happiness and the now

The great American author, Mark Twain said,

The secret of getting ahead is getting started.

As I reflected on this profound quote, not only did I find the inspiration for today’s piece but I thought to myself this is very applicable to many of us.

You see, the conversations I’ve been having lately, seem to focus on this belief system whereby most of us feel that happiness is something that will be found externally.

I’ve been hearing a lot of “When I get a new, better-paying job I’ll be happy” or “When I lose 10 pounds I’ll be happy” or “When I find my soulmate I’ll be happy”

But in all of those instances it shows that we tend to look to some future moment to holding the key to our happiness.

So most of you are probably thinking but what this have to do with the quote above?

Well, from my viewpoint being happy is about appreciating and living fully in the present moment. It involves making the best of the time we have now instead of procrastinating on achieving the goals we set for ourselves.

I am definitely guilty of making excuses for not accomplishing all the things on my agenda (aka gym time). But it’s important on days like that to push yourself to achieve the goals you’ve set.

After all, your future is created by your actions today.

All my love,

M.

What’s best for you

The resounding theme of this week is focusing on what is best for you instead of others.

Many of us are guilty of prioritizing the needs and happiness of those around us whilst neglecting ourselves. Sometimes, we may find ourselves at a crossroad torn between feeling guilty for saying no to someone who seemingly needs our help and genuinely wanting to help.

We may even find ourselves in situations in which we “bend over backwards” to facilitate friends, family and even co-workers, but to our dismay are often left feeling restless and unfulfilled. As human beings we have been conditioned to believe that putting our needs first is selfish.

But let me ask you this, what can be poured from an empty cup?

Thus it is imperative that we learn to take care of ourselves first before we can expect to truly be of service to others. The key to this is learning to find balance in your interactions by setting healthy boundaries that foster symbiotic relationships. Sometimes it may mean making an unpopular decision or being your own cheerleader. But at the end of it all it is important to know that:


All my love,

M.